"Life is an all you can eat buffet" in the words of author Sean Covey. Thinking win-win is the foundation for getting along well with others. It begins with the belief that we are all equal and that no one is inferior or superior to anyone else, nor do they have to be. There are several mindsets that are a detriment to a happy lifestyle such as thinking win-lose, lose-win, or lose-lose. However, there is an alternative called the win-win way of thinking.

You make yourself happy for the moment, but you upset the other person by making everything a competition in which you must win and they have to lose. This way of thinking is much like a superiority complex and leads to constant insecurity and never being content with yourself due to always comparing yourself to others.

"The trouble with the rat race, is that even if you win, you're still a rat."
-Lily Tomlin, Actress

"Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man."
-C.S. Lewis, Author

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You feel as though it's easier to just lose every battle in order to make others happy, while ultimately ignoring your own feelings. This way of thinking causes you to feel inferior, weak and constantly get stepped on.

"Have your way with me. Wipe your feet on me. Everyone else does."
-Sean Covey, Author

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You can't be happy for yourself or others and therefore destroy each other slowly.This way of thinking leads to low expectations and lowered standards.

"If i'm going down, then you're going down with me, sucker."
-Sean Covey, Author

Below is Jose's personal story of a lose-lose situation
The one time this one guy was playing basketball they were down like 30pt in the 4th qt. he was mad so since they were going to lose the game already foul some one so hard that he broke the pg ribs. the way its lose lose I because both team lost the one team lost the game and the other team lost there best player.

Below is Austin's personal story of a lose-lose situation
One day I was playing a game of football in my backyard with a friend. We were both on the same team, and he wasn't a very good player and missed a lot. Although he was a bad player he would not pass the ball to me. I knew if I got the ball I could have made the shot. So I decided the next time he got the ball I would just take it right out of his hands. So, I took it from him and he pushed me over, and the other team got the ball. This is an example of why Lose-Lose is always a bad situation to be in. Neither person will win, and you will always both lose.

Both nice and tough as the author puts it: I won't step on you, but I won't be your doormat either. This way of thinking leads to successful relationships and self-confidence.

"What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?"
-George Elliot, Author

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